Strangers, again

I just saw this vid, as recommended by a friend… a story or something… and it hit me.

Those different stages in a relationship that some people says they go through… are they really all the same?

If I were to make my own version of these stages… it’s gonna go like this:

1. 1.  Strangers
2. 2.  Flirting
3. 3.  Commitment
4. 4.  Honeymoon
5. 5.  Comfortable
6. 6.  Tolerance
7. 7.  <<choose your ending>>

It was mentioned that in every relationship, one of two things will happen: either they get married, or they break up. If someone doesn’t wanna marry, does it mean that they expect a break-up? Problem with some people nowadays is that, everyone’s scared to get hurt, but not all give it a shot—that thing called ‘Commitment’. Many always skip that part, and take it for granted when in fact it’s the most important thing in any relationship, plus all the other formulas attached with it.

Someone once said that, “we always get the same love story that we wanted.” I want to retaliate and say, how about those who fell in love and dreamt of ‘forever’? They don’t necessarily get their happy endings all the time. I also remembered someone saying, ‘when we enter a relationship, we always hope it’s gonna last.’ We don’t enter into a relationship and make a timeline for it… But every relationship has its bumpy roads, it’s strange that not everyone seems to be ready for it. When we get past those hurdles, we get stronger and wiser. And it’s true when they say that arguments are healthy because it opens up each individual to be heard and hopefully, understood. The thing is, not everyone takes these arguments in this light. Some even make it as a leeway to end things up.

For me, relationships are messy… but having that someone who could understand you and accept you for everything that you are, and someone who could be there for you as long as it matters (and even if it doesn’t anymore)… someone who could make you feel happy deep down… someone who could make you feel special and Loved in the most unselfish ways—that for me, is the greatest feeling in the world… both a rewards and gift of which you would whole-heartedly treasure. How many appreciates happiness even when it’s not there in the surface?

It is true that somewhere in a relationship, someone stops trying… something always changes… and it’s always going hurt.

Strangers. They are of different kinds. Some of them are the lives you change, while some changes you. And there are also those who will remain to be a stranger in you.