I just saw this vid, as recommended by a friend… a story or something… and it hit me.
Those different stages in a relationship that some people says
they go through… are they
really all the same?
If I were to make my own version of these stages… it’s gonna go like this:
- 1. Strangers
- 2. Flirting
- 3. Commitment
- 4. Honeymoon
- 5. Comfortable
- 6. Tolerance
- 7. <<choose your ending>>
It was mentioned that in every
relationship, one of two things will happen: either they get married, or they break up. If someone doesn’t wanna
marry, does it mean that they expect a break-up? Problem with some people
nowadays is that, everyone’s scared to get hurt, but not all give it a
shot—that thing called ‘Commitment’. Many always skip
that part, and take it for granted when in fact it’s the most important thing
in any relationship, plus all the other formulas attached with it.
Someone once said that, “we
always get the same love story that we wanted.” I want to retaliate and say, how
about those who fell in love and dreamt of ‘forever’? They
don’t necessarily get their happy endings all the time. I also remembered
someone saying, ‘when we enter a relationship, we always hope it’s gonna last.’
We don’t enter into a relationship and make a timeline for it… But every
relationship has its bumpy roads, it’s strange that not everyone seems to be
ready for it. When we get past those hurdles, we get stronger and wiser. And
it’s true when they say that arguments are healthy because it opens up each
individual to be heard and hopefully, understood. The thing is, not everyone
takes these arguments in this light. Some even make it as a leeway to end
things up.
For me, relationships are messy… but having that someone who
could understand you and accept you for everything that you are, and someone
who could be there for you as long as it matters (and even if it doesn’t anymore)… someone who could make you feel
happy deep down… someone who could make you feel
special and Loved in the most unselfish ways—that for me, is the greatest
feeling in the world… both a rewards and gift of which you would whole-heartedly
treasure. How many appreciates happiness even when it’s not there in the surface?
It is true that somewhere in a
relationship, someone stops trying… something always changes… and it’s always going hurt.
Strangers. They are of different kinds. Some of them are the
lives you change, while some changes you. And there are also those who will
remain to be a stranger in you.
